Three things I struggle with as a parent
There are three things I struggle with as a parent: 1. Sleep, 2. Eating Right, 3. Exercise. When two of these are out of balance, I feel pretty crummy. But if I can at least get two of these in my day, I feel pretty good. If I can do all three, I feel even better. We all have different struggles as a parent. But here are mine:
Today we’ll talk about struggle with sleep:
1. Sleep – Everyone warns you that once you become a parent you won’t sleep. I guess when I’d first heard this from friends I thought they meant “you won’t sleep for the first 6 weeks” or “you won’t sleep for the first few months”. But no. They mean you won’t sleep. Ever. Once you figure out one child’s sleep issue then the other one will have an issue.
For me this is something we’ve really had a hard time with. From new born babies that are up all night to a two year period where our daughter would came downstairs and sleep with us EVERY NIGHT. I’d end up on the couch because she’s like a sleeping ninja that hits and kicks in her sleep. Thankfully, Jon doesn’t mind it as much as I do. (Thanks for taking one for the team, honey).
I wish I had some magical advice to offer you if you have a child that wakes up in the night. We tried everything the parenting books and pediatrician recommended. For example, the parenting book Love and Logic recommends that when they wake you take them back to their beds. We would do that, but as soon as she was asleep and we’d groggily try to sneak out of the bed, she would wake up and sob. Our pediatrician even suggested having a “transition item”, like a stuffed animal or doll, that helps them to be brave and sleep through the night. But none of that worked for us.
After having our baby a year ago, things got worse with her sleep behavior. The baby slept fine. But she was still having a hard time sleeping probably due to the new baby that had displaced her. So, as I slowly turned into a zombie, we went to survival mode and just let her sleep in our bed.
Now, “knock on wood”, our daughter that had lots of sleep issues over 2 years is now sleeping through the night. She insists that we call her Sleeping Beauty when she wakes up in the morning. But you know what? I’m more than happy to oblige.
I wish I could tell you what our trick was or how we resolved the issue, but the only thing I’ve figured out is she simply outgrew the habit. So, if you are struggling with this, hang in there. You’re doing a great job.